In the realm of hetero relationship sex, women control everything. If they’re in a green or flashing amber mode, guys are mostly good to go unless — UNLESS! — a woman changes her mind. In which case it’s game over…period.
It doesn’t matter if a woman tells her off-and-on boyfriend that she’s feeling kinda frisky and wants to blow his socks off because…I’ve just said this…she might decide to pull a 180 out of the blue and tell him “naaah, forget it”. Because if she does, no hunka-chunka, Jose! Zip it and go home.
That said, if a woman tells a guy she’s been seeing that she wants someone to massage her “glute” — a term that I’d never heard before this afternoon, by the way — if she tells him she wants someone to massage her ass muscles, she’s definitely looking to get his heart pumping. I don’t care what anyone says after the fact — she’s looking to sexually arouse.
Put another way, if the woman in question wants the guy in question to keep his distance and leave her the eff alone, the one thing she definitely shouldn’t say is “uhhm, I’d like someone to massage my ass.” Because it’s pretty much the same thing as saying “I’d kinda like someone…I don’t know who but, you know, some fine lubricated fellow out there to finger me or, come to think of it, fuck me with a freshly washed cucumber that I just bought at the local farmer’s market.”
According to reporter Ryan Grim, “I want my glute massaged” is precisely what Graham Platner was told by Jenny Racicot on that fateful night in late 2021 when Platner reportedly sexually assaulted Racicot at her home.
This obviously doesn’t excuse Platner’s alleged behavior that night, but it certainly adds a layer of complexity as well as a certain WTF element.
More to the point, when Politico‘s Jessica Piper and Adam Wren posted their Platner-campaign-destroying story that appeared on 7.6.25, Piper and Wren not only knew about Racicot’s ass-massaging remark but decided to omit it from their story. Because they didn’t want anyone saying “see?…she was leading him on!” or words to that effect. Which some people would say, I’m sure, if the Politico story had mentioned the “glute” thing.
Say it plainly: Omitting a key anecdote in a story about alleged sexual assault is a form of lying — lying by omission. Always tell the whole story, warts and all.
Cenk Uygur, Young Turks: “What is not in dispute is that Politico purposely hid [the glute remark] from readers in order to make Platner look more guilty.”
