Either a lady likes me and gives me the green light, or she doesn’t. Either way is cool. Every time I’ve connected with someone I’ve known within minutes if I’m “in” or not. It’s in her eyes or it isn’t. That doesn’t mean we’re instantly whoopsy-doopsy. There are many, many ways you can persuade someone who’s initially attracted to back up or do a 180. But a green light at the outset is never earned. It is either given or not given free of charge. I don’t believe in jumping through hoops and balancing beach balls on my nose in order to charm a woman into wanting to catch a film or whatever. “I can let it all go,” as Robert Mitchum once said. I’m not a salmon swimming upstream.